My friend Bill Foster (ET USN retired) published his $0.04 worth on his Substack after he published my piece there. So I am publishing his here. Add your own if you are so inclined.
Steve’s thoughts on military members following orders and performing collateral duties yesterday inspired me to write a few thoughts down.
It often surprises me the differences between military and civilian life. For instance, in the military, you have a clear path and a goal. Always. You’re an E-4 and you want to be an E-5. One of the most common things you are told is that you should be observing your boss and thinking “what do I need to do to get his job?” It’s powerful. There is always a goal and always things you can do to move in that direction. When I got out, I took a silly retail job while I looked for a “real” job. The attitude which I was consumed with of wanting your boss’s job didn’t work there at all. It was seen as threatening. In the military, your boss doesn’t care, partly because she wants her boss’s job but especially because she will be leaving soon. After all, everyone moves every 2-4 years. Later, when I got my “real” job, it was completely the opposite. There were 50 people and everyone was in their spot. There was no moving up without moving out except in certain specific cases. Again, quite a culture shock even though half of us were ex-military.
Like Steve, I wasn’t ever only responsible for my job (Electronics Technician – Calibration). At various times, I worked in the CIC, or I was a repair locker leader, a safety officer, a urinalysis coordinator (yes, that involved seeing most of the 1200 or so dicks on the ship). I was a swimmer. I ran a newspaper for two years. I played racquetball. I was public affairs officer (running the newspaper was part of that). I drove a bus to Graceland for a very short period. The point is that in the military, you are rarely supervised closely. You will have at least a couple jobs, and you will certainly hear if you mess one of them up but mostly, you just work.
Another thing that is different than most civilians expect is that the Navy was – although we didn’t call it that at the time – the most DEI, woke, socialist place I ever worked. When I was in Kosovo, someone found some Montana militia stuff and some racist songs on the computer of a dude who worked for me. He was on a plane home two days later. I am not saying there wasn’t any racism, but you are absolutely working with or for Asians, Latinos, Blacks, and Women. My first two jobs after I got out, I only worked with white men but that doesn’t happen in the Navy with its huge black population. In fact, the Army is 50% African American.
So, the composition of the military means you learn diversity and how to work with other people, but you also get taught this stuff. A LOT. Most promotions come with a 2–4-week school with units on racism and sexism. You will attend one-week schools on anger management, on drinking management, on styles of leadership that involve listening to others.
The TV stations at sea and overseas were a service called Armed Forces Radio and Television. Because the majority of the content was donated, by law they had to be commercial free. Instead, they made their own PSAs which ran instead. Don’t Drink. Exercise. Don’t hit your kids. Drive the speed limit. Do the right thing. Threse are your rights. They were incessant and annoying, but I think they were effective. I mean, they may not do much but it’s gotta be better than ten beer commercials in a row. I hated them back then but now I kinda miss them.
And I don’t want to make everything sound rosy. All this work was necessary because there were a lot of stupid people and a lot of incorrect attitudes. Misogyny was rampant. But it was much better when I retired than when I started (Look up something called Operation Tailhook for why). When I entered male homosexuality was greatly suppressed, to the degree that 20-year-old me genuinely believed there were no gays on my ship. We looked at “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” as helpful because at least after that gays could be open and they were not before. The navy was dealing with policemen who shot one another playing quick draw, marines who gave each other tattoos with coat hangers heated up on irons, marines who sexually assaulted their bulldog with radio antennas, drunk drivers killing a goat in Spain, over enthusiastic hazing etc. Those are all things I witnessed.
In the military, there are no private lives. If you get in a bar fight, your commander will know so quickly that it is better if you tell your boss before he finds out. If your wife gets three speeding tickets, you be in someone’s office getting chewed out. If your kid fails school, you’ll hear about it. People could and did get sent to another place for their family’s behavior.
Free complete health care, discounted grocery stores with no tax, free gyms, department stores tax free that could carry anything they wished, your boss knows and controls everything, educational messages on TV, mandatory behavioral training, it is truly a different lifestyle and both in good ways and bad ways, it is way more socialist than anything I experienced in America otherwise.